Apply liquid deglosser chemical sander to the surface of the stained wood with a disposable paint brush. Allow the sander to sit on the surface for five minutes. Wipe the surface with a clean rag to remove the top layer of the finish gloss.
Allow the sander to sit for two hours, then wipe the surface again with a clean rag to remove any dust and old finish that worked loose. Rinse the surface with a rag doused with odorless mineral spirits to neutralize the sander. Allow the surface to dry completely.
Mix six parts of semigloss latex white paint with one part water. Mix thoroughly to combine the water and paint. Apply the whitewash to small, hidden area with a fairly dry brush. Allow the paint to dry to the touch. Adjust your paint/water ratio as needed to get it as opaque as you want it.
Apply the whitewash to the surface with a dry brush technique, dipping only the tips of the brush into the paint. Drag the brush over the surface, pressing gently to spread the bristles out to create a "grain" effect.
Continue applying paint in the same way, working in long, straight strokes, in line with the grain of the wood. Spread the paint evenly to prevent runs and drips. Allow the paint to dry overnight.
Apply a coat of clear water-based finish in your choice of sheen over the top of the whitewash -- particularly if it is often exposed to weather -- using a soft bristle paint brush. Wet the top half of the bristles and keep the brush wet with finish to prevent streaks. Work in straight, overlapping strokes. Allow the finish to dry before returning the project piece to normal use.